Posts Tagged 'Relationship'

Every day is Valentine’s Day, right?


With the creation of this Hallmark holiday, our American culture has generally come to terms that it’s important to celebrate this holiday with or without a loved one. Preferably with, right? Correct me if I’m wrong, but the ultimate Valentine’s Day includes the following:

  • Romantic candlelit dinner that consists of your sweetie’s favorite entree and side dishes.
  • Sweet and savory heart-shaped dessert.
  • A dozen long-stemmed red roses.
  • Box of rich dark chocolates.
  • Hallmark card filled with heartfelt words about your relationship.
  • A romantic comedy and/or some type of fun, spontaneous activity.

Well, despite having the love of my life, this year, the two of us have decided not to partake in any of these activities. It’s a concept I haven’t considered before until now, but I think it’s worth a shot. After a long discussion last night about the significance of the holiday, it makes sense that a couple’s love should be celebrated all year long. I suppose I’m a little bummed that we won’t be doing anything on February 14th, but I am willing to compromise. His argument is that Valentine’s Day forces pressure on the man to drop a good chunk of his paycheck on marked-up presents and a full-course meal out at a fancy restaurant. My argument is, why not take the time to be extra romantic? It’s fun to look forward to something out of the ordinary. I think it’s the spice of life. His take? It’s a pseudo-love holiday. It imposes the unreal on the real.

Want to show your love? Act on it when it’s least expected. Not when society tells you to do so.

What’s your take on Valentine’s Day? Love it or hate it? Or, are you like me, where you could go either way?

[PICS] The Inauguration of President Barack Obama


Michelle and Barack Obama Dancing


Inauguration Ball Goers Capture the Moment


Citizens of Kenya Watching Obama Taking Oath

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Heartwarming Story of Misty LeBlanc

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Today I was reminded of a blog I came across back in September. This is no ordinary blog. This blog is written by Darren, who lost his wife Misty to brain cancer in September. After reading through many of his posts, I found my eyes welling with tears. Never have I ever read a blog that was so real and profound. Darren has touched my heart with his story. You may find his words touching as well.

To read his blog, go to The post that captivated me the most is Misty’s last picture, which I found in September, but can’t seem to find now. I commend Darren for having the courage to spill his life story onto “paper” for the world to see. While I debated if it was appropriate to blog about this, I feel that he is doing so to spread awareness about brain cancer as well as to encourage others to realize just how precious life really is.


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Marriage Proposal on Twitter

As I was sitting here drinking my homemade banana-orange smoothie, I received an email notification saying that I have a new Twitter follower named, @gwenbell following me, @kristinandrews. I got pretty excited and naturally wondered who this person could be. I’m going to take a break for a second and make sure we’re all on the same page…

For those of you who are unfamiliar with Twitter, it is an Internet website dedicated to social networking. The website allows you to write real-time messages to people in your network in 140 characters or less. It’s similar to Facebook’s status messages, which allows you to notify others of what you are doing at the moment. Now, you’re probably wondering why people like myself even bother to write these short and sweet messages. I primarily use it to follow other people in my profession. As a web designer, it is crucial for me to keep up with the standards and happenings of the industry. What better than to follow other designers, such as @justcreativedesign? There is also an abundance of websites with resources with tips, tricks, tools, and articles related to web design: @smashingmag. Here’s an example of my Twitter page:


Note that my latest post is at the top and to the right you’ll see a short bio about myself, which tells others what kind of twitter updates they’ll most likely get about myself.

Now, back to my new follower, @gwenbell. After doing some simple research about her on her website, I found out that she is the one who was recently proposed to over Twitter. I had heard about a couple becoming engaged over Twitter and didn’t quite know what to make of it. At first I thought it was kind of geeky, but then I smiled, because it is such an original way to propose.

I’ll let her tell you the story of how they became engaged. Check out the proposal blog post on her website.

Just one of those days


You ever have one of those days where it seems like everything is going wrong?

The downfall of my day started after work. I volunteer at a homeless shelter and am responsible for running several after-school programs for elementary-high schoolers. I’ll tell you, some of these kids have an attitude that I would never wish upon anyone. I feel for these kids, but they act out of rebellion and it’s absolutely uncalled for. Because of their behavior, they have driven out volunteers and even the lead program coordinator. Anyway, the second hour of my program, I had a rough time trying to keep the teens under control. I left feeling flustered, but kept my spirits up knowing that I was about to hit the gym with my beloved Marcus (we motivate each other, which makes it enjoyable to work out).

I picked up Marcus and we hit the road. He started to explain to me that he was frustrated with the Internet speed at my apartment. Just before I had picked him up, he was working on a time-sensitive issue for work and couldn’t seem to get the job done quick enough. The Internet was apparently going at an all-time slow speed due to the fact that I had downgraded to save a buck. Deep inside I felt kind of guilty that my decision made him feel this way, but I wasn’t letting it get to me. Or was I? Little did I know…

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Relationships: How do you show your love?

060214_animal_loveWith our one year anniversary coming up, I’ve been thinking a lot. For those who don’t know, Marcus and I have been dating since December 2007. I couldn’t ask for more in a sweet, devoted, and handsome gentleman. He makes me feel even more beautiful than I already feel. He listens to all the good and bad things that I tell him. He supports me in all of my activities; such as book club, volunteering, web design, scrapbooking, and my obsession with Jon & Kate + 8.

The two of us are very giving people, which can pose problems at time. We are so concentrated on making the other person feel “whole.” You could say “whole” represents who we are, what we like, and what we don’t like. It’s a sense of respect, I suppose. What I’m getting at is this morning I woke up feeling the urge to do something nice for Marcus. It got me thinking about ways I show my love. I also started wondering about how others show their love to the important people in their lives.

Sure, physical affection is a great way to show love, but it doesn’t quite capture the essence of love. Love to me is respect, appreciation, loyalty, attraction, and being open encapsulated in one. At the root of this is communication. Communication is so critical in our relationships. Not only do our love lives rely on open communication, but so do all other aspects of our lives.

But, back to what got me writing this post in the first place. The ways I show my love to Marcus:

  • Cooking romantic dinners at home
  • Picking up things at the grocery store that he would like
  • My gentle touch
  • Head, back, and foot massages
  • Listening
  • Kisses on his back during the middle off the night
  • Silence with eye contact
  • The sign-language “I love you”

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Apple Picking + Pumpkin Carving = Fall

I am so excited about Fall being here. 🙂 I even had an Octoberfest party at my place last weekend to celebrate the cooler season, which I love. It makes me happy when I see the trees filled with vibrant orange and red leaves. I also love it when I have the chance to drink apple cider. It’s one of those seasonal treats that I always look forward to, like eggnog. I also welcome the opportunity to carve pumpkins, which I’ll admit, I haven’t always gotten around to. Who says pumpkin carving is for kids? I don’t know what I’d do if I lived in an area that didn’t have seasons. Knowing how I am, I like change and having four seasons makes life that much better. I would get tired of living in an area that has pretty consistent year-round temperatures.

Also, with this being Fall 2008, it marks the one year anniversary for me and Marcus. Our relationship began last year as Fall was ending and Winter was just starting up. It’s been the best year of my life and the most stable one by far. I have never felt so confident about where the future is headed. Having a stable job, a stable relationship, and a stable income to support a roof over my head are all things I cherrish about my life.

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